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Dating Plan
Let me ask you, when you know you have a date coming up, do you have a dating plan? If not and you’re successful, that’s awesome. However, if you’re still learning how to date better, a basic dating plan can be helpful. Here are four aspects that you should have on any dating plan.
#1 – Logistics
Here, you need to know whether you will pick her up or whether she will pick you up before going to the date. The best approach is to suggest that she parks beside your place and then that you two will drive together to the date location.
The second question you need to answer is: How will she end up at your place (or you at hers)? Ideally, if she comes pick you up, let her walk to your porch, ring the doorbell and then offer a quick visit of your place. This way, when you two come back at the end of the date, she will be much more likely to accept an invitation to stay in for, let’s say, a glass of wine.
#2 – Date Locations
The general recommendation among dating experts is to avoid a dinner date for the first time – actually, not until you’ve slept with her. This is because dinner dates create too much tension and expectation that sex will be happening, in particular if you end up paying for her meal. Rather, it is preferable to opt for a coffee date.
Your aim should be to have a date composed of a series of mini-dates lasting no more than 45 minutes each. Make sure to choose dates that are inexpensive so that if she ends up not paying a dime you don’t feel resentful and she doesn’t feel like she owes you something. These dates should also be fun and allow opportunities for physical interactions (hugs, high fives, etc.) or otherwise plenty of time to learn about each other.